Top tips for a stress free Fathers Day this weekend

Top tips for a stress free Fathers Day this weekend
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To open this blog I would like to share a famous Chinese saying “rejoice in the bad times as they will be followed by good”. My friend used to remind me of this saying when I lived in the Middle East and quite honestly – this was a bad time! It was a frustrating but liberating thing to hear, ultimately driving on the motivated and fighting spirit in me to push through it!


If you work in financial services I bet it feels like that right now! And it’s been quite a while since 2008 – so that’s five years during which you might have been drawing on your energy reserves to push forward.


Stress is a natural human response and one of nature’s ways of enabling us to ward off a threat or attack. While anger and all of its stress-evoking emotions, such as frustration and judgment, can motivate us to cope with life’s adversities, they can also become destructive. Anger in particular is a powerful energy that can take over the body and mind, damaging relationships, ending careers and damaging health.


Part of resilience building is developing the skill and ability to navigate through the bad times as well as the good. And HeartMath resilience skills give you the ability to better regain control and physically recover more quickly. It’s a little more than just “stop and count to 10’ and will depend on your own life and work scenario and commitment to fixing your stress responses on a long-term basis.


Here is a simple six step guide for this weekend, when the kids are not listening to you or not turning of the wii to do their homework:

  1.  Pause
  2.  Breath (yes, as a grown-up you can stop and count to 10 as well!
  3. Reconnect with your body – in particular your heart (yes, guys we do want you to do this and before you say no way – if you think your heart and emotions don’t affect you please look at this YouTube video first
  4.  Feel a positive emotion – try to feel it not just think it
  5.  Now decide how you are going to react to whatever is bothering you
  6. Action – make your next move in a more collected way



Clearing the decks of your emotions – frustration or irritation for example – before responding increases your chance of getting the outcome you want without conflict.


Positive thinking is great but we have all been programmed through our life experiences. So it takes more than just thinking to unprogramme our natural response – but you can do it and make a choice today to move forward – irrespective of your current stresses, personality type, perspective on life or beliefs. And this will only have a positive impact on your communication with your family.




  • Manage it
  • Prevent it
  • Be Free of it